dreamjagk asked: So I hate school. I don't get along with anyone, and the people I do get along with are not really my friends. They're rude, and nothing like me. We have the same conversations everyday, and I can't stand it. However when I'm not with them, I get super anxious. So I want to change schools, but I can't change schools till next year. So I want to be homed school, but my mom won't let me. She says it will be too hard, but I know I can handle it, and I only want to do it for a year. What should I do
I felt like that when I was a sophomore in hs. I didnt feel like I fit with anyone at school and my family ended up moving and i started going to a school where i knew no one. i found some people to sit with at lunch but i made no effort to connect with them… or anyone.
i had a couple friends outside school and i was basically silent at school for more than a semester. i didnt want to be home schooled and i knew that wasnt an option my parents would go for so i just went with it. i was pretty miserable but at the time i was depressed and dealing with a lot of anxiety so i didnt see any alternatives. eventually i made a friend because i had to do a partner project in pre-cal and that opened me up a lot. after that i started making more friends and things got more bearable.
i know this isnt exactly “advice” but from my experience i can say to try not to close yourself off. you might think you hate everyone and everyone hates you but maybe youre judging them too quickly. school is tough. just be open to friendship and if you have to endure a year at a school you hate alone make it the best of it. use your time doing something youre good at and dont worry about other people. its not going to be easy but youre strong enough to handle it.
Anonymous asked: In need of boy advice. This boy and I have had a thing for a while now and have had a pretty good friendship for like 6 months now. But we haven't admitted our feelings for each other so I'm starting to wonder if maybe it's because he doesn't have any feelings for me. Everytime we hangout it's been like a weird awkward friendship thing and I don't know what we are doing. Are we just friends or am I doing the right thing by waiting around? Help. I love you 💕
what do you mean waiting around? does he seem to be “waiting around” too?
just go with the flow. youre not married to him so if you want to date someone else go for it and stay friends with him. if you only like him just keep liking him and let things develop naturally. what is the rush? honestly, this is the best part! its fun not to know where you stand and be all silently emotional about every encounter. it might not seem that way but thats how i see it. its special because once you move forward or stop youll never get those kind of feelings again. just keep your options open and relax.
Anonymous asked: Hi, My boyfriend is really good friends with this girl, and it upsets me quite a lot. Part of me knows he won't do anything but I seem to be extremely jealous of her. I personally feel she is much better than myself, and I know if I don't stop feeling this way it will end our relationship. What advice could you give me for this particular situation? I'm just horribly confused. xx
this is tough. ive never been in your shoes but ive been the friend over and over. ive always had more guy friends than girl friends and this is a difficult situation for everyone. sometimes the guy and i can stay friends but often the jealous girlfriend wins and i am stuck without my friend until they break up. its really sad and its hard not to look at him and think he was never my friend but i know that isnt the truth. if you want to know some tragic truth about my personal life- my best friend since high school and i havent spoken for a little over a year because of a new girlfriend. i still miss him and its been hard not to hate him for being this way.
if you trust him and your relationship is solid you have nothing to worry about. you probably have the power to hurt their friendship but you know that isnt the person you really want to be. she isnt better than you. thats crazy! why cant you be friends with her too? what is so confusing? you are being competitive with this girl when you dont need to be. you are WITH him and they are just friends. relax and talk to him about your feelings.
Anonymous asked: Hey so i know you like giving out relationship advice so i was hoping you could help me. My boyfriend and I broke up about 2 months ago but I still love him and I'm not over him.. but now he has a thing with my best friend but he still wants to be friends with benefits with me. I said yes to the FWB idea cause i still wanted to have that connection with him but now that he and my best friend have a thing idk what to do... Should i cut him off/out of my life completely?
if i were you i would discontinue the fwb situation and move on. the relationship is over and he is moving on and since it is with your best friend (which you seem pretty ok with oddly) he probably wont be exiled from your life seamlessly.
skatebourt asked: Alright, I'm obsessed with your terrarium your mom got you I swooned when I saw it. I screen shot it and everything. I have been looking for a sweet one for a while but can only find ones that hang. Any idea where yo mom picked that beauty up?
she found it at HEB (tx grocery store)… sad news- its almost totally dead already. whompwhomp.
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